Do you ever feel that even though you do so much, you are not doing enough? Or know a friend that is feeling that way? Well I suggest taking a deep breathe, and pat yourself on the back. You are doing the best you can.

One of the most difficult things about living abroad is keeping in touch with people in the U.S., much less when they are in times of need. I try my best though to make time for a few of my most dear friends. One of those friends is Michelle.

When I first moved to Singapore, she quickly became my best friend. An American, same age as me, having graduated from Duke University and living in Singapore for one year to help setup the Duke medical school alliance with the local university. Throughout our eight month friendship in Singapore, Michelle has shone so much light into my heart. She is a pure beauty inside and out.

About to graduate from Graduate School with a Masters in Public Health, she has been facing a lot of decision making and challenges in the upcoming year. During our most recent catch up, I was so sad to hear my friend was feeling so down, and I felt she really needed a pat on the back.

Here’s this young woman, with a degree from an Ivy League School, lived and worked abroad, soon with a Masters from a renowned public health program, has an outstanding supportive family, and is as beautiful as can be. Michelle has done exceedingly more than other people our age. I tried to reminder her of all the things she has accomplished and change her perspective to a more positive one of thanks.

With all the pressures of life, it can be overwhelming and easy to forget your accomplishments, even small (like making it to church!). I am habitually guilty of this. However, I feel this is a very important part of getting through each day. You need to reflect on what you’ve accomplished, again even small, to help motivate you for what you do next. Otherwise, you just DO DO DO without enjoying what you’re doing. Everything becomes a task.

If you are feeling this way or know someone else feeling this way, bring them a lollipop, send someone a quick hand written note, and remind them of what they’ve done (or yourself!). Everyone needs a little recognition to keep them going. Go on, pat someone on the back!

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